The first time you have sex can be painful, but it won't be unmanageable

The first time you have sex can be painful, but it won't be unmanageable. It's important that when you do decide to have sex, that you trust and are completely comfortable with your partner, and that they are understanding of the situation you're in. Make sure you spend long enough on foreplay, and go slowly. As you become more active, the pain will stop and you can start enjoying the experience.